How Do I Say This?: I'm Trying To Heal From A Chaotic Childhood And I Need Our Home To Be Peaceful
It may be hard to control your environment, but you can communicate with the people around you and try to help them understand why you need more peace.
If you grew up in chaos and are trying to prioritize your peace, you may need to make some changes in your home. Living with family, young children, a partner, roommates, or in a noisy community can be extremely challenging. It may be hard to control everything in your environment, but you can communicate with the people around you and try to help them understand why you need more peace.
Here are some ways you can explain this to any adults you share space with:
- “My childhood home was really chaotic, and I am trying to make our home more peaceful. Can we have some quiet time in the morning on Sundays?”
- “Yelling makes me really uncomfortable. I remember a lot of yelling in my childhood, and yelling in our home just takes me right back to that place when someone was yelling at me. Can we find a better way to deal with this when we’re frustrated?”
- “I need to have some quiet time to myself during the week, or I get really overstimulated and frustrated. Can we plan a time during the week when I can have some time to myself?”
As always, you can say all of these statements in the kindest, most respectful way possible, and they still may not understand. You may also not be able to control every aspect of your environment. Do your best to communicate and control what you can.