Ways to Let Safe People In
These statements will help you let safe people in while honoring the part of you that still remembers what it was like to be left.
When you’ve been abandoned or rejected by a parent, letting someone love or support you can feel confusing. Your body may crave closeness, but your mind may whisper, 'Don’t trust it; it won’t last.' These statements will help you let safe people in while honoring the part of you that still remembers what it was like to be left. Use them when someone who has proven to be safe is showing up for you.
“I really appreciate you checking in. It still feels strange to have someone show up like this, but I’m trying.”
“I want you to know that I trust you, even though it still feels scary sometimes to depend on anyone.”
“It means a lot that you stay when things get hard. I notice that part of me still expects people to leave, but I’m starting to believe you might not.”
“I’m not used to being cared for this way, but I want to keep practicing letting you in.”
“Thank you for being patient with me. When I pull back, it’s not because I don’t care.”