I bet you've played a specific role in your family for quite some time.
The one who gets blamed for everything.
The peacekeeper.
The overachiever.
The one who takes care of everyone.
The problem.
You were assigned this role at a young age and quickly learned to play it well.
A combination of your personality, temperament, skills, and positive reinforcement has kept you in this part well into adulthood. Sometimes, you enjoy your role. It feels good to secure their attention or swoop in to save the day. Other times, you resent it. You can't stand being blamed for yet another problem. You're tired of taking care of family members who won't take care of themselves.
This month at Calling Home, we’re tackling Dysfunctional Family Roles. You will realize,
- The family dysfunction isn’t solely your fault.
- You can’t be responsible for fixing everything.
- You’ll snap if you don’t stop trying to be perfect.
- You need to take care of yourself, too.
- You just need someone to see how much pain you’re in.
You don’t have to keep playing your role in the family dysfunction. There is another way. I hope you’ll join me and our community of cyclebreakers this month for new content every Monday and weekly groups about dysfunctional family roles.
You will learn how to:
- identify what dysfunctional roles are present in your family
- stop playing your role in the dysfunction
- set boundaries with family dysfunction
- build a family you don't want to run away from
Own your role in the family dysfunction and break free.
The hard truth is that we all can be the source of dysfunction in our family.
Every person has moments of emotional immaturity, defensiveness, and dismissiveness. We’ve all been victims and persecutors. The Golden Child, the Scapegoat, the Black Sheep, and the Enabler all play unique roles in maintaining family dysfunction. Admitting and accepting this is the first step in taking control of your family's dysfunction and owning your role in perpetuating the drama.
Some of you will need to work on your emotional maturity and defensiveness. Others will need to set boundaries, stop apologizing, and let go of the need to fix everything. When you recognize the roles each family member plays in the family, you can do something to end the patterns of dysfunction and create a family you actually enjoy.
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