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How To Tell Family You Won't Be Seeing Them This Year

December 2nd, 2024

If you decide you won’t see your family this holiday season, here are some ways to inform them of your decision.

If you decide you won’t see your family this holiday season, here are some ways to inform them of your decision. Please use these scripts to help you formulate your own scripts that feel authentic for you. And, as always, you can only control what you say and how you say it. You cannot control how people respond.

How to tell family you won't be seeing them this holiday

  • For Someone Who Wants Space And To Maintain Family Harmony

“Hi [Family Member]! I wanted to let you know that I won’t be able to come home for the holidays this year. It’s been a really busy time for me, and I need to focus on [work, rest, personal projects, etc.]. While I’ll miss seeing everyone, I hope you have a wonderful celebration. I’d love to catch up soon, maybe after the holidays! Thanks for understanding, and please give everyone my love.”

  • For Someone Who Wants To Set Firm Boundaries

“Hi [Family Member], I wanted to let you know that I won’t be coming home for the holidays this year. I’ve been prioritizing my well-being, and this is the best decision for me right now. I understand this might be disappointing, and I appreciate your understanding.”

  • For Someone Who Needs To Prioritize Themselves

“Hi [Family Member], I’ve been thinking a lot about the holidays and what feels right for me this year. After some reflection, I’ve decided not to come home. This wasn’t an easy decision, but I’ve realized I need to take this time to rest and recharge. I know this might feel unexpected, and I hope you can understand where I’m coming from. I value our relationship and want to make space to connect in a way that feels good for everyone. Thank you for your understanding, and I hope you have a wonderful holiday.”

  • For Someone Who is Estranged from Their Family

“Hi [Family Member], I won’t be coming home for the holidays this year. Thank you for understanding.”

  • For Someone Who Wants to Keep It Brief

“Hi [Family Member]. I hope you’re doing well. I wanted to let you know I won’t be coming home for the holidays this year. Thank you for understanding.”