The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga
Becoming yourself often means accepting that some people won't like it, and this book helps you practice being okay with that.
Many cyclebreakers spend years living their life based on what their family expects, needs, or will tolerate. This book asks what happens when you stop. It's written as a conversation between a philosopher and a young man, and it walks through the ideas of Alfred Adler. The book proposes that it’s your job to live by your own values. How other people react to that is their job. For a lot of people in our community, that's a new way of thinking about family, and it can be a huge relief.
Becoming yourself often means accepting that some people won't like it, and this book helps you practice being okay with that. Adler also takes a firm stance that the past doesn't have to determine who you become. Some of you may find that freeing, and others may feel it moves too quickly past real harm. As always, take what's useful and leave the rest.