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Navigating Intergenerational Dynamics: A Mother's Dilemma

March 8, 2024

Whitney Goodman, LMFT, helps a mother deal with her mother yelling at her child on this episode of The Calling Home Podcast.

Picture this: A woman brings her five-year-old daughter over to her mother’s house. This isn't just any ordinary visit; the woman's mother is the child's grandmother. It would seem like a typical family gathering, right? But what happens next presents a unique challenge.

While they’re visiting, the grandmother raises her voice and yells at the child. The echoes of her harsh words fill the room. What do you imagine could be the reaction of the child's mother?

For some, this might be a normal, even dismissible occurrence. But for this mother, it triggers a flood of memories. She is instantly transported back to her own childhood, a time when she was constantly on the receiving end of such yelling. The impact of those experiences has shaped her, and now, she is making a conscious effort not to parent her daughter in the same way.

So, what does she do? In the heat of the moment, with emotions running high, she decides to remove her child from the home. She stops talking to her mother, distancing herself from the situation until she can decide what to do next. It's a crucial crossroads, isn't it? A situation that necessitates a careful balance between protecting a child's emotional well-being and maintaining family relationships.

Does her reaction make sense? Is her decision to distance herself the right one? What should she do next?

In the latest episode of Calling Home, Whitney Goodman, LMFT, provides some guidance to help this mother navigate this challenging, intergenerational dynamic. This narrative will strike a chord with many of you as you grapple with the effects of parenting styles that have been passed down through generations.

How do we break free from the cycle?

How do we ensure that our children's experiences are different from ours?

Listen to this episode of The Calling Home Podcast, and we'll explore the intricacies of family relationships, the impact of our upbringing on our parenting styles, and how we can nurture healthier, more positive family dynamics.